Let's compile a list
hopefully writing them down will help dispurse the anger they create!
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�You�re probably doing it wrong.� I feel like a heel now because I retorted out of anger: to one adulterous cousin with children of her own, �At least I�m doing it �wrong� with MY husband and not someone else�s,� and to the other one who had two �accidental kids� before age 18, �At least I�m old enough to have a driver�s license, a job, and be able to vote before I get pregnant.� ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
"confide" in me that she was pregnant "on accident" and didn't think she was going to keep the baby. It took all my strength not to punch her in the nose. My second favorite is a woman at work who hardly knows me (and is pregnant,
OR
How about the Sunday I started my period (again) and the theme of the Sunday
OH I got a lot of these and almost all from insensitive pregnant women......
The list goes on and on and on from there......
Having my sister-in-law (who got pregnant while on birth control) constantly complain about how hard it is to take care of her 2 1/2 year old daughter to me. It's pretty insensitive and ungrateful when she knows how hard it has been for me and my DH. I'd trade places with her in a second. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Your under too much stress. When everything calms down you'll get pregnant. What do you mean when everything calms down. It's TTC that's causing my stress ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ How annoying is this? Everyone in both my family and my DH's family know that we suffer from male factor infertility. Seems my sister in-law is a real you know what. She had the gall to turn around and tell me..."too bad my brother isnt as fertile as my husband...I mean i have had 4 abortions already..."
How is that for annoying?...And heartbreaking..and and and..:(
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After 7 years and no ovulation let alone pregnancy, my sister (who now has three kids) sent me a letter (I moved to Australia from the UK) asking me if I was still trying and why was it taking so long, I can't have been doing it properly, as she hadn't even tried.... Dianne
I've been ttc for almost 3yrs. What really erks me is when people say "try not to think about it". Can someone please tell me how we're not suppose to think about it when we have to our temps each morning, keep track of our cm, take all kind of meds, get your blood taken xxx times a month, time bd, go through IUI/IVF/GIFT and still AF makes her sparkling crimson appearance. Could someone please tell us what we're suppose to be thinking about. That one has really ticked me off. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Most annoying thing (so far) DH and I have been TTC since March of 99'. since then My best friend,
BOTH of her sisters, our preachers daughter, a friend at church and two
other friends have had babies. that makes SEVEN babyshowers I've had to
sit through, SEVEN presents I've had to buy in the baby department,
SEVEN times I've had to look at ultrasounds, SEVEN times I've had to try
and not be upset when it was announced at church!! And coming up soon
the first of these babies will be having it's FIRST BIRTHDAY...so now I
have to sit through SEVEN Birthday parties.....AND the whole time they
are all asking me, "When are you and DH going to have a family?", "Oh,
all yo need to do is relax and stop trying", "Just think about something
else for a while", but My favorite is this one...
Thanks for letting me vent.
Here's one for you - from my mother no less. It never fails, whenever the topic come up I hear most, if not all, of the following: It's too late now, they (my kids) will be over 8 years apart, and you know how hard that was. Don't you want your daughter to have a sibling? You're home now, don't you think you should have another baby while you can stay home? There are more, but the real cake-topper is: It'll happen just as soon as you loose weight. Trust me, I know from experience. I didn't try to loose weight just to get pregnant, but as soon as I did, along came your sister. And all of this is AFTER I've told her I've been diagnosed with PCOS.
Ain't that just grand? :-|
Christmas of 2000 was a nightmare!! I was at the peek of my frustration and discouragement after 2 1/2 years of ttc. The big family surprise was that my sister in law was pregnant. She told me privately and my mother in law joined in and told me my other sister in law was pregnant too!! Of course, they told me from the moment of conception so it has been a very long 9 months for me and my husband. This was the lowest point of the past three years. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
You two must have a lot of money.... (implying of course that we're selfish and have our priorities all wrong, because we're both working and have no kids) How long have you two been married? No kids yet, huh? You're not taking a vacation in July or August?
You're so skinny. I'm sure not having had kids helps...
When are we going to start hearing the patter of little feet next door?
Well, at least you can have fun trying!
My sister-in-law (6 weeks pg with #2) is experiencing morning sickness and knows we have been trying for over a year. She asked me if I wanted to take the baby for a little while (during the morning sickness time). I stated that I would trade places with her in a heartbeat! All this with my nephew screaming and laughing "you can't trade stomachs". I just walked away crying. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
How about when you are the first one married in your husband's family and everyone who gets married after you has a baby. Then there's always one in-law that says "You're still in last place! " or "If you don't hurry up an have a baby, we're going to send you away!" As if I have a choice in the matter. Or how about the sister-in-law that wants you to come to all the doctor's appointments with her because she thinks she's helping you! Now how inconsiderate is that! ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Todays a classic example: Someone at work just found out she is PG said "I cant believe it - now I'm married and pregnant in less than 2 months - how complete is my life!" Thanks - I dont have feelings...
It was so much easier back when I only had one. It's just like "starting over." Well, duh, that's the whole point! And the infamous one from my sister, "are you REALLY trying." My answer: "nah, I just like to pretend that I am" ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
At my new job, a coworker asked me WHY my husband and I don't have kids yet. (not 'do we have kids yet', but 'WHY don't we') I just simply said that we are having problems with it and she actually said to me, "Well, some people are just not meant to have kids." I was so offended! Does she think that the crack-addicted, hooker on the corner of 5th and Broadway with the three crack-addicted welfare recipient kids, is meant to have kids and I am not. Some people just don't think before they open their big mouths. (I found out later, that she has four kids... all by accident - she just missed one pill! - oops!) She just doesn't get it! ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Having my sister-in-law (who got pregnant while on birth control) constantly complain about how hard it is to take care of her 2 1/2 year old daughter to me. It's pretty insensitive and ungrateful when she knows how hard it has been for me and my DH. I'd trade places with her in a second. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
How about the mother in law who says " some people just shouldn't have kids"... we don't speak to her anymore. or the people who call you and tell you so
"So, you and your husband aren't making much progress in that area, huh?"
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